Weddings are such a sight to behold, “Here comes the bride, all dressed in white,” as they say, the most beautiful woman in the world is the bride. The thrill is reaching the climax as the couple is exchanging their “I do’s” the guest are holding their breath before that part where the groom will remove the veil and give his bride the kiss that will seal their wedding vows. And after a few moments of bliss, they are now pronounced husband and wife.
What a scene, a perfect wedding scenery every woman dreams of having one day. Before the actual date of the wedding, several preparations are being made, guests are being coordinated. They are planned meticulously where they would have to sit according to their importance on the couple’s life. The food, yes, don’t forget the food, from appetizers to sumptuous entrees to the refreshing desserts, is carefully planned. Everything is planned so that no mistakes will have to happen during the wedding day.
Are wedding bands and rings the same?
Both wedding rings and wedding bands are symbols of marriage. Some folks call it bands, while others call it rings. Both terms are interchangeable. Man and women wear both. The groom wears a simple metal ring, though they can wear a more intricately designed one. At the same time, the woman’s wedding band or ring can wear the classic band to a more detailed and exquisitely designed ring with bits of expensive diamonds. Are wedding bands and wedding rings the same? The answer is an astounding YES. They are the same and can be used interchangeably.
For the million-dollar question
“Who pays for wedding bands?” “Who pays for wedding rings?” If we want the wedding to be rainbows and butterflies, everything must be ironed out to the Tee. It would be embarrassing if some “minor” glitches happened because someone overlooked a seemingly small and trivial matter. To make everything smooth and easy, why don’t we discuss important things and make things happen.
We will compare how it was done before compared to how it is done now as time changes and the ways and means of making something happen. We can still expect the same output but employ different strategies and methodologies based on the changing times and how we see it fit.
As they say, it takes two to tango, and it would definitely take two to swing. To plan your wedding and decide on who’s to do this and who’s to do that wouldn’t be successful if you don’t sit together and answer this question: “Are we committed to doing this 100%?” If you can’t seem to answer this with a convincing YES, it will be a failure from the start.
Commitment to do one’s part in executing the game plan is the key. We no longer have to play gender roles on some key aspect as we are already aware that to make something work, complementing one’s weak points with one’s strong assets is a much better approach. “Who pays for wedding bands”, “Who pays for this and who pays for that” may work to some extent, but it can be your choice if you want to stick with how it was done then compared with a more liberal and modern approach to solving things.
Is it still the same then and now?
Marriage, as well all know, is a commitment, period. It is a commitment to share everything like you share a bit of your time with your spouse, a bit of yourself to your spouse, a bit of this, and a bit of that with your spouse. In short, you share everything with your spouse. Nowadays, it is common ground to share everything equally because weddings entail a lot of expenses. It’s not like having a cheeseburger and some soda. Let us have a short trip on memory lane on how it was done before and how it is done now.
Technically, a wedding, no matter how you look at it, is a ceremony that would join two different individuals together. All weddings involve a groom and a bride, an officer, whether civil or religious that would solemnize the wedding and the guest. But how it was planned and prepared would differ based on many variables that may turn to ruin or make the wedding successful.
But things like love, mutual understanding, respect, acceptance, and lots of considerations would remain the same whether it was a wedding done before or a wedding that will happen in modern times. These virtues that will be the foundation of a successful marriage remain true regardless of time, race, or nationality. It is hard to make something work if only one party does all the hard work and the other part is just passively waiting for something to happen.
Who pays for wedding bands traditionally?
Keeping with wedding tradition has some elements of romance in it. Traditionally, the bride does the wedding band shopping for her groom. And in the same manner, it’s the groom’s duty to provide the ring for her bride. Maybe that is how they do it before because it is more romantic that way. And why it is done that way because many old folks before see to it that everything is followed according to how it was done before them.
Before, what we are doing now is considered taboo if one party decides to do what is not “on the script.” Peer pressure before was so suffocating that doing something different from what is supposed to be done would entail a lot of criticism and gossip that would become a “talk of the town” when something is not aligned with what is supposed to happen.
But I must admit, weddings before are romantic and solemn. Our folks could still remember in a heartbeat every minute detail that took place a couple of decades ago.
Who pays for wedding bands today?
To be on the same side and agree to everything to be successful is the key. As the cost of everything from rings or bands to flowers, receptions and foods are significantly higher and more expensive, the need to make adjustments and fine-tune everything is necessary. A 50/50 sharing on the expenses seems justifiable, but if one party can earn more and would suggest that they would take the bigger share of the pie, then it would be a welcome gesture and could greatly help make everything run smoothly.
You can agree. Both the groom and the bride can opt to split everything 50/50 considering the expenses nowadays. There is really nothing wrong with breaking away with tradition in terms of wedding expenditures. Since you decided to break away with traditions, some elements of surprise and suspense are somehow diminished because both groom and bride know beforehand things that are supposed to be “hidden” or hold in abeyance for more thrill and suspense.
Peer pressure nowadays is no longer toxic and suffocating if you don’t follow how weddings are supposed to be made, like how it was done then. Most of your friends and relatives know the high cost of weddings and other important events today. Before, you can afford to literally invite almost everybody you know, both special and not so special. But now, you need to sit for a while and consider who will be invited on the actual wedding day.
The time we live in now calls for wise decisions on mutually agreeing on what is the best to be done. Both bride and groom would have to ensure that resources are properly appropriated and utilized to avoid unnecessary heavy expenditures that would result in financial burden after the event. The next topic will highlight how open communication can help you run everything smoothly to prevent issues and conflicts that resulted from poor planning and communication.
Open communication is the key
In today’s modern settings, a sound discussion on wedding plans must be considered. Usually, the one who earns more has a more stable income would shoulder a large percentage of the expenses since the one with much income can easily squeeze a bit of muscle power to close gaps in expenses. We are now living in a time where practicality and emotion can smoothly collide and work together for the common good.
Let us remember that relationships are all about balance and mutual respect. Complementing one’s shortcomings can assure you of a lasting relationship for years to come. It’s not really who shares the most, but it’s about who’s willing to go the extra mile for the relationship to work, and it works both ways. Both parties must agree to commit and go the extra mile when it is needed and called for.
How much should be spent on a wedding ring?
A jewelry store slogan before has made a marketing campaign that true love and commitment of man can be shown if he’s willing to shell out a few months’ worths of salary for buying the perfect ring for his bride. They made a lot of fortune with that marketing campaign. Imagine you earn around $60,000 a year, and you will be spending around $15,000 or 3 months’ worth of salary to show that you are serious with your intentions.
With the skyrocketing cost of everything in the background, $15,000 is $15,000, no more and no less. I am not downplaying anything or whatever, but it is just hard to keep with the pressure of having to shell out that amount in today’s financial landscape. Come to think of it, after the wedding, for your first few months as husband and wife. There are more expenses and “incidental expenses” that you will go to meet along the way.
According to cnbc.com, spending 3 months of salary on a wedding ring is no longer the norm today. Is it because of less love? No, it’s not because of less love. It is because of the high cost of living and expenses. With a volatile employment landscape looming over the horizon, being frugally in love is just the way to go. Nowadays, $500 to $2,500 is spent on wedding rings. It may reach up to the $5,000 to $6,000 mark, and guess what, you can still be lovingly romantic.
And women nowadays, though, are still dreaming of a fairy-tale wedding, but if judgment call for it, they can be reasonably wise and reasonably just. And if a woman sees and feels that you are pure with your intentions, she won’t impose something that would jeopardize your financial capability. Remember after the wedding and the honeymoon. There are still years and years of emotional, mental, and financial hurdles and battles you need to win as a team. And winning those battles is important and must be the way to go.
Can I wear my engagement ring as I walk down the aisle?
The wedding music now starts to play. Everybody is now pretty excited as they wait for the bride to make her entrance down the pretty aisle finally. The question that looms in the bride’s mind lingers as the moments are slowly unfolding, “am I to wear my engagement ring when I finally walk down the aisle?”. Let us first consult what tradition has to say.
In the olden times, the bride wears the engagement ring on her right ring finger as she makes her slow march on the aisle. On the part of the wedding ceremony where both the bride and groom exchange their rings, the groom places the wedding band or ring on her bride’s left finger in his most princely stance. It would be placed first on the hand, and after a few moments, it will be slide slowly on the finger, and then everybody starts crying, smiles and laughs a bit, and then claps.
That is how I remember it done before. Now for a more untraditional way, if you have worn the engagement ring on your left finger, your groom may slide the wedding ring on the finger where your engagement ring is placed, and you may change the order according to your preference after the wedding ceremony.
You may have some rehearsal with your groom and the solemnizing official before doing it in front of the people to make sure that everything is tweaked and ironed out to avoid any small mishaps that would ruin the solemn moment of one of the most important events in your married life.
Do couples pay for each other’s wedding rings?
Your grandparents, both your side and your spouse side, see to it that your parent’s wedding follows the traditional marriage to a tee during their time. It means everything was spot-on, from preparations to the executions to the parties to the honeymoons and almost everything about a successful and memorable traditional wedding. It also means whatever your grandparents tell your parents what is going to happen, come hell or high water, that is what’s going to happen no matter what.
For example, if it means that the bride and her family would have to do this and that, that’s what’s going to happen. Likewise, if the groom and his family would have to execute this and that, by all means, that’s what’s going to happen. Maybe why you are named like that, maybe just maybe, your grandparents have something to do about it. But that was then. Now is a new completely ball game.
The younger generations now live in a time where they can be flexible and pliant. They can make some adjustments to ensure the same outputs are produced, considering that we live and thrive in complex and difficult times. Wedding traditions evolve with the changing times. Your wedding may look different from how your parent’s wedding look a few years back. During your parent’s time, gender would be a consideration in some roles that need to be done to ensure a successful wedding.
As time changes, so as the gender roles in wedding planning and execution. Gone are those days when a particular gender has to shoulder this or that because that is what is being dictated by tradition. The rules have somehow flipped or changed with the passing times. We now have a clear set of outlines of who’s going to do this and that because it is already agreed beforehand.
Modern brides and grooms now have a more practical approach to wedding preparations. They both now work together solidly and determine the best possible solution to achieve the best possible outcome. Thorough discussions are made to ensure that the wedding will come up perfect and flawless, and agreeing on several key issues like acquisition of engagement and wedding rings are covered completely without overlooking unforeseen events.
But some would like to stick with the oldies, as they say, “oldies but goodies,” combining the traditional wedding with a touch of modern-day approach is a sure hit with today’s modern couple. There is nothing wrong with it. In fact, it assures the couple that everything will be ironed out and will come smoothly as long as the details are discussed and key decisions are made with an open mind and anchored on mutual respect.