Your girlfriend will be a year older soon, and you’re thinking of ways to make it memorable for her. Last year was terrific, and you’re thinking of topping that and making this year’s birthday the best. You reading this is a good sign. It means you’re willing to go the distance and blow her out of the water because the tips would help you achieve the perfect surprise. I’m certain that you’d earn the king of all boyfriends title after successfully pulling any of these suggestions off.
Frequently, men tend to get carried away and get comfortable in relationships to the point they stop putting efforts. In reality, the reverse should be the case. If you want your relationship to flourish, you have to continuously make her feel special.
How do you do this? Off the top of my head, break the norm and do something different from what she’s used to. Nothing ruins a relationship faster than subjecting your girlfriend to a birthday routine year after year. I know love trumps material things, but there’s a limit to that.
To avoid putting your relationship in such a situation, how about I take you on a tour of various ways to surprise your girlfriend on her birthday.
- Walk Down Memory Lane With A Slideshow Of All Your Favorite Moments Together
Having a slideshow of your best moments makes you come off as thoughtful and romantic. It shows her you value all the time you’ve spent together and you’re looking forward to creating even more beautiful memories. To top this gesture off, prepare a narration for every slide. Try talking about the events that occurred, how she made you feel and why you value that particular memory so much.
If you want to go all out on this surprise, prepare a home-cooked meal (this is one of the surprises on the list which would be discussed in detail), set the table, and play some music that sets whatever mood works for her. Select pictures from memories that she also treasures so much. It would help you connect to her emotions and make everything perfect.
Believe me when I say this particular move has helped fix struggling relationships because it shows your depth and commitment level. Try this if you want to pull the perfect surprise for your girlfriend.
- Attach A Handwritten Letter To Her Gifts
As little as this gesture might seem, it is a surprise that would go a long way. Especially if she hasn’t experienced such an act from you in the past.
Getting her expensive gifts can set the pace for a perfect surprise. Especially if it’s something she has always desired. You can find out what she wants by asking her for the top 3 items she would love to own. If it’s within your spending budget, get it. If not, look for an alternative. Something that won’t hurt your finances.
Once you’ve got the perfect gift, please write a letter that expresses how much she means to you. The goal here is for her to read the letter and feel like the most important person on earth. Talk about how much of a blessing she is on the world, how she lights up every room, her best qualities, and how blessed you are to be in her life.
If your girlfriend is not the type that appreciates such gestures, don’t freak out, there are other things you could attach to the gift. You need to know her love language and use that to your advantage.
- Take Her On A Getaway Trip
You can never go wrong with some time off. Away from stress, pressure, or anxiety. It doesn’t have to be a two-week trip, just a few days should suffice. Before planning the trip, try to discover her perfect getaway- the location, atmosphere, food, weather, fun activities, etc. You have to ensure it is something she would love and enjoy. That’s the only way for you to put the surprise effect on her. If you can’t afford her ideal getaway trip, recreate it less expensively.
If she would love to walk on the beaches of Australia or Seychelles and the cost of that is way above what you can currently afford, look for the nearest beaches around you and make that work. Remember, it’s the thought behind it that counts.
I tried this particular step a few months ago, and it changed my life. The fact that I did everything I could to make the trip work despite my crazy work schedule made her appreciate this surprise even more. She screamed for the first 5 minutes after the shock. If it worked like magic for me, I’m sure it would turn out great for you.
- Pull-Off “An Act Of God”
I call this an “act of God” because out of the hundreds of people I tell to pull this off, I get hundreds of excellent feedbacks. This “act of God” positions you as the best boyfriend in the world. For this to work, you need four of her favorite songs in the world.
Yeah! It is a must. Even if you hate the sound of music, I’m sorry to inform you that for her birthday, you’d have to suck it up. Remember, you’d be willing to do anything for her, provided it puts a genuine smile on her face.
Once you have a list of these four songs, listen to them like your life depends on it. I mean, know every beat pattern, cram the lyrics, research on the artists, and understand why exactly she loves the songs. If she loves it for a sad reason, my advice is you change it. The songs must have a happy theme. That’s the only way to nail the surprise effects.
The point of all these is to create 20-25 minutes of heaven for her by performing/miming the songs.
What would you be needing?
- A physical space. (Your apartment preferably)
- Birthday decorations
- Birthday dinner
- A microphone and speaker
- Your costume (I recommend you dress up like her favorite artist).
Once these are sorted, go on to plan how the rest of the day would go. The “act of God” is the surprise you prepared for her, but that can’t be all. Something else needs to follow suit. A dinner or movie date should do the trick.
One thing to note about this surprise plan is, ensure she doesn’t have other plans. You wouldn’t want to be stuck in your apartment waiting to put on the most incredible show for her; then, she eventually doesn’t show up. Ask her if she has other plans for her birthday or she’d love to spend the day with you. This is to avoid being in a very awkward situation.
- If You Know Your Way Around The Kitchen, Make Her One Of The Best Meals Ever
If you have to attend cooking classes or watch cooking tutorials to pull this off, by all means necessary, do it. There’s something sexy about working your way around the kitchen in her presence.
Take on the character of a chef for the evening and words like ma’am, my lady, or even cheesy nicknames to spice things up.
Remember that your mood and countenance go a long way in achieving this surprise. You wouldn’t want her walking into the room and feeling uncomfortable because there’s a scary frown on your face.
Whatever it would take for you to make her birthday special, try to do it. It might not seem like a big deal to you, but the little things go a long way.
Note the following about this birthday surprise tip
- It would help if you chose a dish that wouldn’t take up most of the time to prepare. She might get bored waiting for it to get ready
- It’s all about her, so the meal choice has to be her favorite
- Talk to her while you prepare the food. Don’t get obsessed with trying to make the perfect meal. She’s the priority for that day, so nothing should take the attention off her.
- Give Her Something You Value
This is not the time to throw in your golf clubs or football. Whatever you choose to give her has to be something she’ll also value, like a necklace, a wristwatch, a painting, or even a plant. It just has to be a gesture she would love and cherish.
Anytime she sees that item, she would think of you so it has to be worthwhile.
- Take Her Shopping
I don’t know what it is about shopping, but I know girls love it. Something about getting new items puts a smile on their faces. If you pay attention to movies, any girl is feeling down, sad, or stressed out; her friend always suggests shopping. It is no coincidence. There’s something there. Why don’t you tap into that?
If she loves shoes, tell her to meet you somewhere close to her favorite shoe store, act casual, then walk up to the store and tell her it’s on you. She would try to refuse but stand your ground. If she insists, take the shoes on her behalf. Eventually, she’d have to join you. If she’s not a fan of shoes, then take her shopping where she loves.
- Throw Her A Party
Parties don’t have to be loud and crazy. You can do something small and classy for her. I know parties might not sound like a surprise, but if it’s something you’ve never done for her, it would have the wow effect.
She might have mentioned that she’s not a party type or has never had a party for some particular reason; that should not stop you. Just ensure that the people you invite are those she loves. Not someone that would ruin the mood for her.
Invite a few of her friends, get food and drinks, dress up, decorate the apartment and wait behind the door to yell surprise!
- Take Her Dancing
I know you might dislike dancing so much, and the mere thought of it almost made you throw up, but sadly, this is something you’d have to do for her. Relationships are about compromise and sacrifice.
If she has never gone dancing before, count yourself lucky because you’re about to give her an experience of a lifetime. Dancing can help you let loose and feel renewed. Have you been feeling anxious about work? Is that presentation giving you anxiety? Is she trying to get her mind off everything for just a moment, at least? Dancing is the way to go.
She might love dancing so much, and you might find it uncomfortable. This makes it a perfect experience. Provided you don’t get grumpy and ruin the mood. If she sees a fun side of you that’s not afraid to make a fool out of yourself just for her, it will unlock a different level of intimacy which would strengthen your bond.
- Surprise Her At Work With Flowers, Chocolate, And Gifts
If you have a very tight schedule that barely gives you time to do anything outside work, this should be the option to go with. When she knows that you made her a priority, created time for her, and showed up with gifts and flowers, it would be a surprise she’d cherish for a long time. I feel good whenever someone goes out of their way to come through for me, and I’m sure everyone feels that way.
If you’re in a long-distance relationship, showing up at her door with gifts is the perfect surprise for her. She won’t see it coming. I remember when my girlfriend flew 11,000 miles to say happy birthday to me. It melted my heart, and I couldn’t fight back the tears. If the gesture made me feel that way, how do you think it would make your girlfriend feel? The only way to know for sure is to pull it off.
Birthdays should not be treated with levity. You don’t see it as a big deal doesn’t mean your girlfriend is not crazy about birthdays. This year, try something different for her. It’s the least you could do.